Real Talk: Awesomeness is Not Easy

I've posted a lot about the ways to find your way, how to keep going, how to save yourself from intense fatigue and stress- but I haven't really acknowledged the number one roadblock that will try to get in your way.

Getting your shit together is such a wonderful, necessary and self-fulfilling endeavor. The moment that you first meet your significant other, getting that congratulating call from your dream job, selling your first book, getting to quit your shitty and insufferable old job- it's like reaching the top of the stairs. You're done "figuring out" your start and finally get to start enjoying the fruits of your labors.

Now, the number one factor that gets in the way of all success is exactly what you'd expect: fear. You're too afraid to even apply for your dream job because what if you don't get accepted? If you finally balls up and ask out your crush or reconnect with a past love, what if they aren't interested? If you quit your old, shitty job, what if there's no going up from there? We're all afraid of the "what if" that comes after the big jump- but guess what if? What if it actually happens. How amazing would that be? What if your fears are realized? You'll live and there are more opportunities.

That is the bottom line, really. We are so afraid of failure, so afraid of humiliation that we just don't do anything- but what the fuck is that going to do? By staying in your current job, relationship/lack thereof, home etc. you are just making yourself uncomfortable anyways. You're just so used to this discomfort that you have forced yourself to be comfortable in it- which doesn't make sense and is unfair for you!

If it's a job, you're working your ass off doing something that you hate, why not just start working your ass off doing something that you love?

If it's your relationship status, say you're in a relationship that doesn't make you completely happy- why not put the work into fixing it? Or if it's really not working out, go out there and find someone that does make you happy. If you're single and scared to put yourself out there, or you tend to go for the wrong guys- change that shit up! You know what your issue is already, I know it as well as you do. Maybe you're trying too hard, not hard enough, giving it up on the first date, not kissing him when you had the perfect opportunity, or dating guys that remind you of your ex. Switch it up and deal with the change because it will lead you to love and happiness- who doesn't want that?

If you want to make massive change in your life, you cannot just settle for what you're doing now. You can't just do the minimum and expect the maximum results. No coming home from work at 5pm and going to sleep. No watching X hours of TV because it makes you feel "safe". You have to get your butt into full gear in order to make any kind of massive change in your life.

Again. It is going to challenge you. You're going to have to stretch your time, your body and your mind to make shit happen. This means constantly checking yourself when you get negative, hopeless thoughts; working for hours on end and getting less and less sleep; giving up time with friends and family because you're on a role and just have to finish the chapter you're working on.

You can do a lot more than you think. We are capable of making so much massive change that it scares the shit out of us- but somewhere inside, we all know we're capable.

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